Think back to the Halloweens when your children were small. You zipped up costumes over warm sweaters, handed out flashlights, and held small hands as you crossed the street. You knew every house on the route. The only surprises you braced for were a fake spider web or a teenager in a mask jumping out from behind a hedge.
This Halloween week, I’d like to share a different kind of scary story. The families below are made up, but the situations they face happen every day.
The Russo Family
When their father passes away, the three Russo siblings gather at his kitchen table with a stack of mail and a long list of questions. Who is supposed to handle his affairs? Which bank accounts did he have, and who can access them? What happens to the lake cabin he loved?
Anna believes Dad named her as executor years ago. Her brother thinks he changed his mind after the divorce. The youngest recalls Dad saying the cabin should stay in the family “no matter what,” but no one can find anything in writing. Meanwhile, the funeral home is waiting for decisions, and no one knows whether Dad preferred burial or cremation. Bills keep arriving, accounts are frozen, and the siblings, who used to be close, are now speaking through clipped text messages.
The Hayes Family
Margaret Hayes was organized her whole life. Years ago, she met with an attorney and signed a will, a power of attorney, and a healthcare directive. She even wrote out instructions for her funeral, down to the hymns and the photo for the program.
But when Margaret suffers a stroke, her daughter Jen has no idea any of this exists. At the hospital, doctors ask who has the authority to make medical decisions. Jen and her brother disagree about what their mother would want, and without the paperwork in hand, they’re left trying to reconstruct conversations from years ago. Weeks later, while sorting through the house, they find the folder. Every wish was written down. They simply found it too late.
No Monsters, Just Unanswered Questions
There’s nothing supernatural in either story. Just loving families trying to do right by someone they care about while guessing at the most important details. That uncertainty is what makes these moments so hard.
Preplanning is one of the most thoughtful gifts you can give the people you love. A complete plan typically includes a will or trust that directs who receives your property, a financial power of attorney so someone you trust can manage your affairs if you can’t, a healthcare directive and healthcare power of attorney so your medical wishes are known and honored, and written funeral instructions so your family isn’t left making those choices in the middle of their grief.
But signing the documents is only part of it. Your family also needs to know that your plan exists, where it’s kept, and whom you’ve chosen to step in. And because life changes through marriages, divorces, births, moves, and new property, your plan deserves a fresh look every few years.
You can’t prevent your family from facing hard days. But you can make sure they aren’t left wondering what you would have wanted. You can tell them where your documents are. You can talk about what matters to you. You can give the people you’ve chosen the chance to understand their roles before they’re needed.
A Question to Ask Yourself
When the pumpkins are put away and the costumes are packed up, take a quiet moment and ask: If my family had to act on my behalf tomorrow, what would they know for sure, and what would they be left to guess?
If someone comes to mind as you read this, share it with them. It might be the nudge that starts an important conversation.
Take the First Step
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